Touch: “A Taste of Kink”

What is Taste of Kink?  It is an educational program run twice at AASECT, Annual Conference in Minneapolis and again in Denver.  A three-hour fundraiser for AASECT, it conferred three continuing education credits (CE’s) that count towards AASECT Certification and other professional licensing requirements.  The program consisted of participants contracting to see and possibly experience a “taste” of kink activities by signing a waiver, in much the same manner that kink social group members do when they attend kink social events.  Six or seven teams of experienced kink educators  model for the trainees how to negotiate and obtain consent for a specific kink activity, as well as answering questions about the demo and their lifestyles.  At almost all of the stations, trainees had the opportunity to experience a sample version of the kink activities if they formally negotiated and agreed to do so.  Example stations included bootblacking, hot wax play, flogging, spanking, puppy play, bondage, foot worship, and violet wand play, all in the context of negotiation, rehearsing their safe words, a brief experience of the activity, and aftercare.  AASECT Certified Members served as safeties to observe the activities, answer additional questions, and support participants who might become uncomfortable with any feelings that were provoked by the sessions.

History:  The original title and design for the educational program “Taste of Kink” were Susan Wright’s work.  In the decade before the publication of the Fifty Shades novels, there was a misconception that BDSM was painful and nonconsensual. Professionals always asked: Why do people do BDSM? What does it feel like that people want to do it? To educate professionals and interested novices in the LGBTQ and allied communities, the local kink groups wanted to put on programs  that showed what BDSM was, and the idea was to provide a smorgasbord of light interactive demos that provided training on how to negotiate consent and gave a nonthreatening overview of kinky experiences.  Many kink local groups routinely program advanced demos that were perfect for their regular clientele, while a program like Taste of Kink might attract curious people to those locally produced efforts.  

In 2012, the AASECT Annual Conference team for the meeting in Austin arranged for a nonmember presenter to give an introduction to BDSM as a breakout session.  This presenter, not being familiar with AASECT CE rules and policies, decided at the last minute that her presentation would be amplified with a demo.  Despite failing to describe these plans in the conference program, she recruited a sympathetic conference goer to stage this demo, and presented it.  Her session was jammed with attendees, overfilling the space and surrounding her presentation area.  The presenter and her assistant graciously volunteered to be photographed by the numerous smart phones in attendance.  When the assistant took off her top, a Board Member in the audience left to deal with the emergency, and an intern who was helping administer session logistics retreated to the front desk to complain she was seeing violence in an AASECT conference presentation.  The presenter had not only unwittingly violated AASECT CE protocol by deviating from her program description, but she had invited people to film, and potentially to post pictures of the action on social media in ways that might have put conference attendees, who had not given consent to be photographed, at risk of problems at work or at home, let alone failing to secure AASECT’s consent to any of these missteps.  

Susan and I were involved in helping AASECT craft a positive response to this incident that minimized stigma.  Needless to say, many of the ways this particular session was done violated the kinds of contracting that are typical in many BDSM social groups.  With the exception of the Folsom Street Fair, photos are typicall and very strictly forbidden.  In many venues, smartphones are an unwelcome intrusion.  We suggested that with resources available like the AASECT AltSex Special Interest Group (AltSex SIG) and NCSF, which had access to experienced kink educators, it should not be necessary for AASECT to bring outside presenters in on this topic.  Why not use people who knew AASECT’s culture and training needs?  

Thereafter, Susan and I were in continual conversation with successive Annual Conference planning teams.  But it took several years to get a conference where we had adequate site and local educator resources available.  Because AASECT’s Code of Ethical Conduct prevents this sort of touch between AASECT members, we could not have AASECT members providing the education for each other.  Some AASECT supervisors also might have supervisory relationships with potential participants and such conduct would vilolate their supervision agreements.  Although the official policy of AASECT was supportive of BDSM education, not all members shared these open views and trainees would have realistic reasons to be concerned about what some other members might think.  And worries of this sort were a distraction from our educational objectives for such a session even if we could overcome them.  So we decided upon an initial event that required a convenient off-site location and experienced kink educators and professionally trained safeties from the AASECT AltSex Special Interest Group who were also sophisticated about BDSM practices.  Understanding AASECT’s culture and kink lifestyles, they would be in an excellent position to support any AASECT participants who might have questions or conflicts during the event. 

BDSM as Social Organization in Monterey:  In 2013, we thought we had these elements assembled in Monterey California.  We were near a very strong community in San Francisco and had a bondage B&B in the community that might provide an offsite location.  I went to Monterey for a site visit.   Sometimes my work requires sacrifices!  Unfortunately, the B&B was in a rural subdivision 40 minutes away from our conference site, and a large group of attendees could not be bussed there in a timely manner and without creating a disturbance in the neighborhood.  We dropped our plans for Taste of Kink in Monterey and did “Kink as Social Organization” instead, bringing the B&B operators, Jim Volcelka and Montaine; the head of Folsom Street Events Demetri Moshoyannis; Richard Sprott, Director of CARAS;  Anna Randall as a representative of TASHRA, Janet Hardy author of several classic books and principal of Greenery Press; and Race Bannon, founder of the Kink Aware Professionals List for a panel about organizations that serve the kink communities.  That was attended by 120 people, and was highly rated, awarded two CE’s for each attendee, and generated about $10,000.00 for AASECT

Kink as Social Organization, AASECT Annual Conference, Monterey, California
Left to Right: Russell J Stambaugh, PhD, Presenter, Jim Vocelka and Mointaine, owners of Monterey Stay and Play B&B; Anna Randall of TASHRA and CARAS, Janet Hardy, author and publisher of Greenery Press; Richard Sprott, Director of TASHRA and CARAS; Race Bannon, founder of the Kink-Aware Professionals List, Demetri Moshoyannis, Executive Director of Folsom Street Events; and (in back) Neal Cannon, PhD, Presenter.

Taste of Kink I in Minneapolis, 2016:  We finally had good offsite space and highly professional educational resources in place in Minneapolis and we ran the first Taste of Kink at club space.  We jammed 100 participants in for three hours.  The local group provided hors d’oeuvres, SportSheets provided gift bags, and 6 different stations offered tastings which were gingerly taken advantage of by a minority of participants.  The feedback we got was intense, and very positive.  It ranged from a couple of AASECT veterans who thought it was all old hat, they had seen it before in the 1970s; to participants who cried they were so overcome that AASECT had taken kink seriously enough to allow the presentation.  There were a few problems, too.  Although everyone praised the care and concern in the program design, some wanted to play but felt too inhibited because senior members were present, and they could not let themselves go in public space (which was fine in this case since “play” was not the point of the event).  However this is an issue for many professionals who can’t participate in local kinky social organizations, so it is far from unreasonable.  Also, one AASECT member saw fit to get partly naked during her tasting, which we had not seen fit to prohibit, but it raised eyebrows.  Some of the educators who modeled how to receive the activities were naked because it was consistent with how they typically play.  Overall, the safeties had little to do, of the 100 participants, many had questions, only one wanted to leave early.  But that was a logistical problem, it being dark outside and a mile walk back to the conference hotel.  This imposed an inconvenience that might dissuade uncomfortable participants from leaving if they felt they had to.  Mostly the safeties served as co-facilitators, explaining things when the educators were busy.  But this led to the objection that the safeties were too senior and so ubiquitous that they inhibited some people from tasting because of their possible power relationships with general participants.  The event was run as a fundraiser for AASECT generating about $5,000 for AASECT less the rental charges for the club.  NCSF and a private donor covered AASECT expenses for the buses.  3 AASECT CE’s were generated for most of the 100 participants.

Cap’n Dubrovnik casts his baleful presence over the ballroom immediately before the Denver Taste of Kink. We have no photos of the event consistent with the policies outlined at the end of this post. The captain lost his boat long ago, but in Denver, we were nowhere near navigable water. Of course, navigation has been surprisingly challenging for The Captain!

Taste of Kink II, Denver, 2018: On the basis of that feedback, Susan I accepted the 2018 Annual Conference team’s invitation to repeat a Taste of Kink in Denver.  Again, we had access to experienced kink educators in the local area. Susan and I thought that transportation had been a problem for anyone who might have wanted to leave early, and we addressed this by having the event at the conference hotel.  The Denver Marriott Downtown had a free ballroom well-segregated from the main AASECT event, so it would be easy for educators to off load their equipment, set up and leave without disturbing other hotel patrons with their garb or gear.  We used different people as safeties from the AltSex SIG in hopes of not only giving more SIG members a chance to contribute, but to create opportunity for participants who felt inhibited last time to taste without the same safeties on hand.  

Sportsheets Inc. graciously provided this lovely goodie bag to each participant at Taste of Kink I and II!

We invited Neil Cannon to serve as master of ceremonies because I had health difficulties one month prior to the event that might have precluded my participation.  Happily, I proved healthy enough to co-facilitate. Everyone signed the same waivers that had been used successfully at a Taste of Kink in Denver, and we devoted somewhat less time to going over them in favor of more time for attendees to experience each station.  We got some feedback that more time should have been devoted to consent discussion.  SportSheets again provided lovely gift bags (pictured below), and requested that we use their products in a demo, but we declined this request out of a desire to have the educational content free of any commercial considerations.  They independently arranged a hospitality suite which they opened after the event, but was not endorsed or monitored by the program team.  

During the 2017 Annual Conference, the Denver Marriott raised objections to the event, and it required a frenzy of last-minute negotiations with the Board and Annual Conference team to avoid a cancellation.  One of the late arising requirements was no nudity.  Susan and I took responsibility for informing the educators, who had not been told that nudity was off limits in their contracting with us prior to the event.  All the educators agreed to this revision, but some of their teammates arrived late to the orientation session which had to be repeated and one sub took her top off late in the event, so partial nudity was present in the last 10 minutes of the event in violation of our agreement with AASECT.  One trainee left early, troubled by something, but declined to discuss her concerns with the safeties, Susan, Neil or myself.  And once again, the event garnered great participant reviews, generated a potential of 360 CEs for AASECT members, and grossed $24,000 for the AASECT general fund in exchange for modest room and setup expenses.  NCSF organized the presenters with compensation for parking due to the logistical expenses of bringing their equipment, but no professional fees.

No event in Philadelphia,  2018:  The Annual Conference team was immediately enthusiastic, and plans were drawn up to present in 2018 in Philadelphia.  Ruby Bouie Johnson and Susan recruited educators who are peoples of color from Philadelphia under the same terms as in Denver, with the addition of a small stipend to be paid to each of the educators by AASECT.  In the interim, the new Board of Directors met and passed the objectionable policy against continuing education credit for educational programs that included educational touch.  The Taste of Kink producers, now including Susan, Ruby and myself were not informed of this policy until December.  We objected to changing the agreement which had worked perfectly well in previous events.  First we were told the policy was only being tentatively proposed, but that employing consensual educational touch might increase liability.  The Philadelphia educators  refused to re-negotiate their agreement with AASECT on terms that were different than the previous predominantly white educator teams in Denver and Minneapolis.  AASECT persisted in the misconception that Taste of Kink could be run with a one hour didactic presentation on consent, for which one CE would be awarded, and participants would be on their own to attend demonstrations for the latter two hours.  This led to their claim that they had not cancelled Taste of Kink and wished to proceed.  In fact, AASECT President Susan Stiritz was informed within a week of the notice  that AASECT was going to enforce its new CE policy that AASECT had thereby cancelled a Taste of Kink.  

In the midst of listserv discussions about this dispute, an AASECT member came forward in support of the Board’s decision, indicating that she had been sexually harassed at Taste of Kink and had left.  I do not know for sure that she is the same person who I knew to have left during the Denver event.  It is hardly surprising that she had not informed the event team of this event, Susan and I are aware from our 2014 Consent Violations Survey that only about a quarter of people who experience consent violations actually go to event staff with complaints, and only a minority of those who do are satisfied by the event staff’s responses.  Although Susan Stiritz seemed nonplussed when this revelation did not change NCSF’s willingness to renegotiate the design of Taste of Kink, it hardly constituted a basis for so doing.  Taste of Kink already had language in its waiver that was more strict than the general AASECT behavioral guidelines routinely included in AASECT Conference Program.  We did not have then, and do not have now, any evidence that this incident had anything to do with the educational touch guidelines of Taste of Kink, nor were we informed of it in a manner that would have enabled us to address it during the event itself.  This does not mean that we do not take it seriously, but that is not a matter of educational policy or even event design.

Given that AASECT may well be correct in refusing to grant CE for some programs employing consensual educational touch, it is worth considering why Susan and I used it in Taste of Kink.

Certainly, the perceived demand for such a program among AASECT trainees was part of our motivation, and Susan’s success running a Taste of Kink for non-kinky audiences was the starting point for our design.  But several other design considerations were even more important.

Intended Audiences:

Our target audiences were primarily AASECT members who were not already members of existing kinky communities, for whom the activities were already likely to be well understood and familiar.   We were especially interested in programming for people who would not have the nerve to go to a kink social club or national event because of issues of professionalism, personal safety and community reputation.  Here was a safe place where such material could be encountered without the risks of encountering embarrassed friends, colleagues or clients.   A secondary population was AASECT AltSex Special Interest Group who did not need instruction in basic kink activities, but who wanted to be able to use their expertise to educate and support AASECT members who are not so sophisticated about the content.

Design Objectives:

First, although seeing actual kink behavior was a popular draw, in the days of PornHub and a host of on-line video educational programs, neither Susan nor I thought that merely showing behaviors that kinky people do was a sufficient design objective.  Some kink behaviors were too upsetting and extreme to demonstrate.  Others were too complicated and lengthy to do in the time allotted.  And while the opportunity to question BDSM lifestyle participants was a definite objective of Taste of Kink that was well met by the actual design, it was easy for AASECT trainees to get such a training experience at other places.  

Second, the educational touch had to occur in the realistic context of consent, negotiation, play and aftercare that characterizes play between casual friends and strangers at kink clubs.  This modeled consent in an interactive setting and de-sensationalized aspects of play.  In a situation in which privileged professionals get to view the behavior of marginalized subcultural denizens, there is plenty of opportunity for further marginalizing of the educators.  The design we created discourages objectification and promotes curiosity, empathy and equality.

Third, in so far as curious and excited AASECT participants experienced apprehension and caution about playing, they were in an excellent position to empathize with clients and their own students, who experienced kink negotiation in much the same way.  It is partly for this reason that we have been little persuaded that it is improper for AASECT members to do this in front of one another despite obvious status and power differences within the AASECT community.  This condition is characteristic of kink communities too, and drives home a seriousness and vulnerability that is very characteristic of kink consent.

Fourth, by providing light activities that feel differently than they look, people are able to recognize that their assumptions about kink might not be right, and that kink is often theatrical and psychological, not just a matter of technique, costume or equipment.  Challenging assumptions is in and of itself destigmatizing.

And fifth, we felt that AASECT fully accrediting this event (and later, having it in their own space, rather than off-site) was destigmatizing of touch, kink, sex, and the process of educating about it, one of NCSF existential goals. 

It is, I think, obvious from the statement of these positives not only why we are adamantly opposed to AASECT’s stigmatizing CE policy, but also why we do not think that a one hour consent lecture and freedom to roam a bunch of kinky demonstrations is an acceptable substitute design.  And frankly, believing that, we think very little of any AASECT official who would propose this.  AASECT is here to amplify our abilities as educators, not diminish them.

All of this is not to suggest that Taste of Kink is already in a perfect state, and requires no improvements.  We still wish that a safer place for demonstrations could be provided where people who were uncomfortable playing under the gaze of others could be accommodated.  We still have yet to run a Taste of Kink that was fully diverse with respect to race.  Frankly there are important but secondary reasons to defend nudity in these events.  Nudity is about vulnerability for kink participants and AASECT trainees alike, and makes the consent context more realistic, even when AASECT participants cannot get naked themselves.  Because participants might be triggered, it is necessary that they be allowed to leave without sacrificing their CEs, lest they feel excessively compelled to stay.  While only two or three people seem to have left two events serving over 220 people, it is objectionable to offer credit for a program that is not fully attended.  This is a genuine requirement of CE reciprocity with APA and other professional bodies.  Barring 220 people from profiting from a program for the needs of three people is not proportionate or consistent with our educational mission.  Finally, it may not be sex positive or good advocacy, but AASECT needs to be able to fully comply with its contractual obligations to its conference hotels.  If they cannot be relied upon to permit legitimate AASECT training programs, other meeting space needs to be obtained, and the needs of the many are better served with off-site space where such trainings can be safely conducted.

Note that I have not suggested changes to discourage sexual harassment.  Taste of Kink is not, in its present form, as conducive to sexual harassment even to the degree that general AASECT sessions are.  I have included the Taste of Kink waiver participants were required to sign, and ask if that isn’t more of a guarantee than most AASECT programs offer?  It is important to recognize that behavior defined as harassment occurs in a larger social context, is already regarded as personal deviance, and one or even more episodes of it do not inherently reflect a defect in organizational culture or in specific program design.  Taste of Kink did not provide any way for AASECT Members to taste kink with one another.  So it is a misunderstanding of the program design and execution to suggest the harassment was a likely product of the design.

I belabor this at length for two very serious reasons.  In the wake of AASECT November 2018 Board meeting, AASECT has instituted policies that are damaging not just to BDSM education, but to all activities that involve touch, including Tantra, massage, sex work, erotica, live clinical demonstrations and other potentially safe and valuable learning experiences for professionals who society legitimately expects to be experienced, sophisticated and tolerant of diverse personal expression.  If AASECT is not promising that, what exactly are we offering the public?   The AASECT policy marginalizes much more than kink.  Secondly, AASECT saw fit to specifically regulate, and thus chose to reinforce stigma not just about touch but about BDSM and nudity specifically.  This offers AASECT no real protection if the ban is not evidence-based, and AASECT has no such evidence.  If these things are appropriate to program objectives and those objectives are consistent with the AASECT mission, they need to be approved.  Barring any consensual behavior regardless of context is stigmatizing overreach and a retreat from full professionalism. 

I have presented Tate of Kink’s design and history in detail not to defend it.  It is fine and AASECT even still wants it.  I have fought AASECT’s policy to protect AASECT.  It turns out that from the viewpoint of professionalism, you cannot marginalize others without marginalizing yourself.  The field of sexology needs AASECT not to do that.  We at NCSF need you not to do it, too.  Think of it as flattening the curve on social stigma.

© Russell J Stambaugh, PhD, May, 2020, Ann Arbor, MI All rights reserved.

Materials below were written by Russell J Stambaugh, PhD and Susan Wright, MA. Permission is granted to use them as the starting point for the design of similar events. Please credit NCSF as these materials were derived from kink scene contracts and consent educational programs!

The Following are copies of the actual materials used for Taste of Kink II

A TASTE of KINK: Informed Consent

The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT) is pleased to present “A Taste of Kink.”  A Taste of Kink is a project led by AASECT’s, AltSex Special Interest Group and the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF).  The focus of a Taste of Kink is to provide several live demonstrations of kink practices related to Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism (BDSM). The demonstrations will be led by members of the local kink communities.  The demonstrations will start with the process of communication, negotiation, and contracting for consensual adult behaviors and roleplay between the demo-bottom and the demo-top.  Various BDSM equipment and techniques will be utilized and demonstrated.  Scenes will conclude with the contracted aspects of aftercare.  Some AASECT members will have the opportunity to volunteer to sample a “Taste of Kink” at the various demonstration stations.  All parts of this demonstration will be guided by BDSM community standards of being Safe, Sane & Consensual.  3 AASECT CE Credits.

TERMS OF PARTICIPATION

I hereby agree to the following terms of participation in a Taste of Kink.

  1. I attest to the fact that I am at least 21 years of age and agree to carry with me at all times, a valid driver’s license or Government issued I.D. prior to entry to the secured area of the event sponsored by AASECT to prove my age and identity.  That the name listed on my registration is my true and valid name and not an alias.
  • I understand there will be live demonstrations of BDSM.
  • I agree and attest to the fact that I find none of these subjects or activities to be offensive or objectionable to me in any matter. I understand that some people can get triggered or have negative reactions to BDSM.  I am willing to take those risks as an adult and take full responsibility to care for myself and or get support as needed.
  • I am participating in A Taste of Kink voluntarily.  I willingly and with full consent waive and relinquish any claim, legal or otherwise, that I might make related to anything I might see or experience.
  • I understand and agree that no alcohol, marijuana, or any illegal or recreational drugs or substances of any kind may be brought into the event.
  • I understand that there is to be no nudity.  Genitals and breasts must be covered at all times. 
  • I understand and agree that if it appears I am noticeably affected by either alcohol or drugs, I will be denied admittance and or asked to leave by Security, the Executive Director of AASECT, an AASECT Conference Committee Member or AASECT Board Member.  I agree that their decision is final, and I agree to wave any registration fees that may be involved, and further I agree to wave any recourse against AASECT, its’ officials, and or its’ members.

  • I agree that by entering this event, I agree that there are emotional and physical risks inherent in BDSM activities and as such, I agree to hold harmless AASECT, its’ members, its’ officers, directors, conference committee members, or anyone else involved with a Taste of Kink. 

  • I understand and agree that no recording equipment is allowed in the event space.  If cell phones are brought in to the space as a matter of convenience, they must be turned off and remain concealed in purses, pockets, etc.  Should any audio/visual equipment, cameras or other recording devices (including cell phones and PDA devices) be observed in the Taste of Kink space, such equipment can be immediately confiscated, and all recorded data immediately destroyed. Any participant caught taking pictures or making audio or video recordings with any device will be required to leave immediately.  If the violation is by an AASECT member, further action may be taken that is consistent with other AASECT policies, procedure and ethical codes.   
  1. For those of you who must stay in contact with family members or babysitters, please leave word at the front desk of the hotel, and we will make every effort to reach you immediately.
  1. By signing this Agreement, I agree of my own free will to all terms of this agreement.
  1. Normal dungeon etiquette is required.  Do not interfere with a demonstration unless specifically invited to do so by the participants.  Do not touch any other person or anyone’s possessions without permission.  Please limit all conversation, comments and other noise to a minimum in the play space.  
  1. AASECT Staff and monitors must be obeyed at all times. If you become aware of a person who is breaking the rules, please notify a roving monitor or a station monitor. If you are not sure of the rules or of regular etiquette, please ask.
  1. By your entry into a Taste of Kink you acknowledge that you have read these rules and that you understand them and will abide by them. 
  1. I understand and agree that no animals are allowed inside the Taste of Kink area. 
  1. I agree that if should I violate any section of this agreement, to the extent that I would be ejected, I agree to forfeit my registration fees to AASECT without any expectation of financial reimbursement.

By my name and signature, hereby memorialized below, I swear my complete agreement and acquiescence to all terms stated above.

NAME (printed legibly): _________________________________________________________

SIGNED: _______________________________________________________________

DATE: ___________________

WITNESS: _____________________________________________________________

DATE: ____________________

Lastest revision: 06/11/2018

Outline: Introductory Speech for A Taste of Kink II

7pm – 7:15 – Mix and mingle. Attendees are arriving and wandering among the stations, talking to the demo teams

7:15 – NELLY: WELCOME & INTRODUCTIONS

Welcome to A Taste of Kink II

Recognition and gratitude for Russell

Sponsored by the AASECT Alt Sex SIG and the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

I am Nelly Cannon, this is Susan Wright.  Russell and Susan designed this event several years ago and brought it to the AASECT annual conference in Minneapolis. 

We thank:

AASECT Board

Conference Committee

NCSF

Brian and Liz from Thunder in the Mountains.

The local demonstrators and DMs from the Denver kink community

AASECT Station Monitors

Volunteers from the Alt Sex SIG

This is fundraiser for AASECT that has raised more than $15,000.  The money will be used for…

We are getting 3 CE’s for this event.

Brief introduction to play…

The structure of a scene is as follows:

Consent

Contracting/negotiating

Safewords

Play

Aftercare

Tonight’s event will follow this same structure, and to begin, we will all make sure we understand what we are consenting to, and we will contract together. Then I will turn you over to Susan who will explain the mechanics of negotiation, play and the demos. When the demos are over, or you are ready to leave, you will rate the event, sign out, and collect your CE certificate. 

Housekeeping – Neil

Feel free to leave at any time, if you wish. It is our intention to create informed, ongoing consent during this event, so if you no longer wish to participate, please don’t stay.

If you are uncomfortable about anything, there are several layers of support…

Three Roving Monitors (Me, Susan and Anna).  Similar to Dungeon Monitors.

AASECT Station Monitors

Demonstration leaders, demo bottoms, and DMs from the BDSM community.

please tell me or one of the station monitors who are wearing the orange vests. These vests are very typical of a BDSM party where the DMs wear distinctive sashes so people know who they can go to for help.

Re-Introduce Susan

Susan: Consent & Negotiation

We are modeling the experience of BDSM for you in tonight’s event, so I want to make sure we’re on the same page.

Everything I’ll discuss with you about Consent and Negotiation are available on the NCSF website. Check out our Consent Statement, Power Exchange Statement, BDSM Glossary, What Professionals Need to Know about BDSM and other FAQS available on our website. We also ask you to sign up as a Kink Aware Professional, if you already haven’t done so. Please take a Got Consent? brochure from the NCSF table – it’s very useful for helping to educate people on how to negotiate and get consent.

There are a vast pool of sex educators like the good folks who have come here who are mostly volunteers who work with hundreds of BDSM groups around the country. As more people are becoming aware of BDSM and more people are accessing this education, there is more demand for it. Kink Aware Professionals are essential to our underserved population, and without a doubt, you will be seeing more opportunities for growth in the coming years in this area. 

Keep in mind tonight that consent as a professional means something different than it does in a BDSM context.

We see consent as an informed, voluntary agreement to engage in a particular BDSM activity or to enter into a BDSM, D/s or M/s relationship. Tonight we’ll be examining BDSM activities or what we commonly refer to as “scenes.” The primary points of consent are:

1. Consent is choice. If you are pressured or manipulated into doing something, you have not given consent.

2. Consent is informed. Everyone involved must know enough so that the consent is given on an informed basis.

3. Consent is not a blank check.  We all have limits whether those limits are physical, mental or emotional.

4. Consent is revocable. You can withdraw consent at any time.

5. Consent is made with a sound mind, not under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

Consent is not the absence of a “NO,” but the mutual creation of a “YES.” To come to that mutual agreement, kinky people need to negotiate. That means they have to talk about what they want and don’t want and why. As we all know, most people don’t talk about sex even with their partners.

Negotiation in a BDSM context is agreeing:

Who is going to be involved – tonight tastings only happen between demonstrates and attendees

What kind of experience is desired – the tastings are brief and mild and power exchange is limited because of that

Where it’s okay to touch and not touch  – tonight you may have an option of different areas for stimulation, including in some cases bare skin or clothed skin. Plus, please give your preference for aftercare – a rub or hug?

When a risk of injury or a health issue needs to be considered – do you suffer from dizziness? Or have a skin issue? Tell the demo top before trying the sensation.

Why you are doing this together – the goal of the scene – tonight it is educational so that you gain insight into why and how kinky people engage in these activities.

How you stop it, whether it’s a scene or a relationship – tonight Red is the safeword and yellow means to slow down – Nelly will talk more about that under the Rules

People negotiate in a variety of different ways: on the spur of the moment, extensively through emails, through in-person discussions, or as an ongoing part of their relationship.

It is impossible to eliminate entirely the risk that the activity or relationship may turn out differently than everyone involved anticipated when consent was given. In this regard, BDSM is like many other activities—team sports, sky diving, rock climbing. This evening is no different, so everyone here is charged with personal responsibility for managing your own risks.

This is exactly why we’ve developed this kind of education, because what we do entails risk. Emotionally, physically and mentally, we are impacted by exchanging power and stimulating each other in intimate and intense ways. So we each have to protect ourselves. And we have a responsibility to teach others how to protect their health and psychological well-being.

Nelly: Rules

Our contract together tonight includes rules about how we demonstrate things here.  Some are supplied because we are an AASECT event, but most are etiquette that BDSM social groups observe when they play together.  They are a condition of everyone’s participation here, and I welcome any questions now before I ask everyone to commit to them.

Let’s start with a principle before we get to the rules.  For many people in the BDSM community, dungeon space like this is sacred.  There are rules, rituals, protocols and a spirit that runs deep in the veins of some folks.  We ask you please to be in this space with that in mind.

As for the rules, there are several and they are important so that everyone has a positive experience.  The rules are in place for your emotional and physical safety.  They are also in place to expose you to the sorts of rules your clients might encounter if they were in a dungeon.

1.         The doors will close prior to the event and nobody will be allowed entry after that point

2.         Attendees can leave at any time.  If you need to leave to use the restroom you are welcome to do that and return, however we request that you do not wander in and out any more than you absolutely have to.

3.         There is no nudity. Genitals and female breasts will be covered at all times – you may wear underwear.

4.         No touching people, or other people’s stuff without their explicit permission.

5.         Safewords are required for participation in any demo.  For tonight, everyone’s safeword is “Yellow’ and ‘Red.’  Yellow means ‘Pause and let’s discuss something.’   Red permanently stops play.  If you use your safeword, be prepared for play to stop.  It can take courage to use your safeword, not just to decline to use it.  Err on the side of safety.

6.         No loud talking laughter or distracting behavior near the demos.  It is OK to whisper and or to speak softly.

The roll of witness in the BDSM community.  Can provide energy, observation, love, support, and allowing people to be seen.

7.         No cell ringtones, no cell conversations in the demo area, and no sound recording, video recording pics or selfies. If we see a cell phone, you may be asked to leave and it is at the full discretion of the Roving Monitors.

8.         No drugs, alcohol, or intoxication.  It is inconsistent with our safety and learning agendas.

Please don’t put us in a position where we have to ask you to leave.

9.         Report any problems or issues to a Monitor immediately, or come to Susan or myself.  If something makes you uncomfortable, you are free to leave the demo or discuss it with our monitors.  Our monitors will help you process what you saw and make arrangements for you to do whatever you think best, but the responsibility to approach them is yours. 

10.       You can ask people anything, but listen respectfully, even if what they say makes you uncomfortable. 

In addition:

11. Station Monitors and the 3 Roving Monitors are AASECT volunteers.  They are akin to Dungeon Monitors.  They are here for your physical and emotional safety.  Their job is mainly just to watch, and to talk to you if something you are experiencing makes you overly uncomfortable.

12. People in this group and in the lifestyle are at various stages of ‘outness’ about their participation.  It is courteous to stick to whatever names people introduce themselves under, even if you think you know them by another one.

13. Freedom.  You are free to question and participate in the demos as time allows.  That means declining to participate, changing your mind, and using your safeword.  Try to suspend judgment of everyone, including yourself, if you have reactions you didn’t expect.  These may indicate opportunities for learning that we could give to you in no other way.

That is our contract, and unless you withdraw consent and leave the event, it will end when you leave this space.

Susan: Play and Aftercare

Attendees can choose to be bottoms to “taste” the sensation. We’ll give tastings to everyone that we can, but not everyone will get to taste everything. You don’t have to participate in the tasting of any of these sensations.

An important point of context…

I have seen people new to public dungeon space get triggered by different things.  We cannot anticipate what will trigger 125 people.  What we do know is that it helps people to remember that each scene has been enthusiastically consented to in this specific context and thoroughly negotiated by all parties involved.

The demonstrations themselves will take place simultaneously and will last for 5-10 minutes. Each will consist of:

1. Brief negotiation between the Demo Top and the demo bottom

2. Instructions on the technique being demonstrated, along with explanation of safety and the equipment being used

3. Short demonstration

4. Aftercare in which the Top and bottom connect and assess the scene

5. Then the demonstrator and bottom will take questions

6. Some “Tastings” by the attendees, which includes several basic negotiation questions along with brief Aftercare check-in

Approximately 30 minutes of tasting will take place, and then the demo teams will do another short demonstration. You can move between the demonstrations to observe and taste each sensation. Or you can observe from the seats around the edge of the room.

Now let me introduce the amazing educators from Thunder in the Mountains. Liz is the Marketing Director of Thunder and the organizer of the demo teams! Brian has been co-producing with Liz. They are available to answer any questions you have.

Our 8 stations are set up around the room where you can see demonstrations of: flogging, spanking, bondage, electrical play, wax play, bootblacking, puppy and pony play, and temporary piercing. Attendees will not be able to taste the temp piercing, but you will get to observe the demonstrations.

Our amazing Demo Teams and DMs are: (go through the final list clockwise around the room where the demo teams are waiting to get started!)

There will not be a Q & A session at the end so ask your questions to the appropriate people as you enjoy the evening. Look for those of us wearing an orange vest and ask your questions! On the NCSF table, we have flyers for a bar night happening at Trade later tonight if you’d like to enjoy a more play atmosphere.

If you would like help processing what happens at this event tomorrow, please drop by the NCSF table in the exhibit area or come to the AASECT Alt Sex SIG munch tomorrow evening at…

Now let’s get started!

7:30ish – Demos

AASECT Monitors will be each assigned a station to watch over, answer questions or get the attendee to the Roving Monitors, Susan, Nelly or Anna so they can answer their question.

Even if you have a long line of people waiting for a taste, stop every 30 minutes or so and go through your short demonstration from negotiation to play to aftercare again for the people who were at other stations and missed it the first time around.

10 pm – Demos end

10-11pm – Equipment loaded out

Touch, Part I: A Brief History of AASECT Regarding Consensual Educational Touch

Michelangelo’s Sistine Chapel features the power of touch in creation.

“…so loving to my mother that he might not beteem the winds of heaven visit her face too roughly.”

Hamlet, Act I, scene 2 — William Shakespeare

“Oh, my love, my darling

I’ve hungered for your touch…” 

Unchained Melody — Hy Zaret and Alex North

The Power of Touch:  A casual perusal of Western mythology suggests that it is scarcely possible to overestimate the power of touch.  Sleeping Beauty is entirely overcome by a mere pin prick and awakened by a single kiss.  A frog is transformed back into a prince by, again, a single kiss.  Smeagol is embarked upon the loathsome transformation into Gollum by unknowingly grasping the One Ring of Power.  Sophie is doomed by the wrenching loss of her son to the Nazi perpetrators of the Holocaust as he is torn violently from her grasp.  There is no shortage of tales about the transformative power of touch, for good or for ill in our culture. 

A cat and person taking pleasure in touch.

The power of touch domesticated horses, dogs and cats.  It undergirds the power of healing to so great a degree that many religions including Christianity have powerful stories of healing by touch alone.   These are not restricted to the revival tent, Freud and Breuer, having initially discovered resistance, experimented with overcoming it by laying hands on their hysterical patients, pressing their foreheads in a naive attempt to overcome it.  Amidst our recognition of its power, Masters and Johnson formulated behavioral therapy for sexual problems that emphasized the power of pleasurable touch to change behavior.  We are regularly learning of the role of neurotransmitters and hormones that are triggered by touch, and our professional and criminal regulations struggle to delineate the boundaries between professional and therapeutic touch and abusive behavior.  National scandals around it are a daily occurrence in the news media, from the American women’s gymnastics scandal to the chronic crises of sexual exploitation that enmire the Roman Catholic Church internationally, to stories of politicians at the highest level who sexually exploit interns in the Oval Office or brag on national TV that their power can coerce acquiescence, if not consent, from beauty pageant contestants by touch alone.

Bill Masters and Virginia Johnson’s pioneering work in sex therapy relied on touch and physiological measurement of sexual response. It would have been impossible without touch. They advocated sexual surrogacy, and tried to legitimate it with only partial success.

The Need for Legitimacy:  Our friends at AASECT then, can be forgiven for a certain apprehension about the power of educational touch in their educational programs.  Striving to define their sexual health practitioners amidst the power and danger of touch and desire is a daunting task.  Striving for legitimacy, sex educators, counselors and therapists know that legitimacy is hard to sustain in stigmatized sexual discourse.  In an age where public perceptions of a thing often trump established scientific facts, legitimacy is evanescent and always under challenge.  One need only examine the titles of AASECT Annual Conferences to see how difficult this is.  Although sexuality is strongly associated with pleasure, AASECT commonly goes for 7-8 years at a time before frustrated activists put ‘pleasure’ in the title.   For an enlightening comparison, look at how long it has been since their conference title included the word ‘touch.’  For the curious, AASECT has used “pleasure” twice and “sensuality” once in the 25 years over which I have records.  It has used touch zero times.

Medieval guildhalls in the Grote Markt in Antwerp, Belgium. As trade became increasingly important in the Middle Ages, guilds of craftsmen became powerful. They controlled who could become a journeyman and acted politically to protect their professions. Today, professional associations perform many of the same functions.

Guilding Politics and Protection of the Public:  Partly this is a consequence of the guilding politics of AASECT.  AASECT was founded in 1967, as an organization of sexuality educators. In 1973, they made the controversial decision to welcome sex therapists into their community.  In order to bolster their professional legitimacy, sex therapists require that candidates for sex therapy certification attain licensure as professional mental health practitioners before they began training as certified sex therapists.  Because of the dangers of unprofessional sexual conduct between mental health practitioners and their vulnerable clients, touch between therapists and patients is strictly limited by State licensing bodies.  Surveys indicate that about 8% of clients have had unprofessional touch from mental health professionals up to and including sexual assault, with male therapists about three times more likely than female therapists to have admitted sexual contact with a client.  In this climate, it is unsafe for the professions or the public to fundamentally relax these professional boundaries even in the face of evidence in that touch can be therapeutic.  Thus, AASECT Certified Sexuality Educators have become bound by the legitimacy needs of sex therapists whether they made specific sense in many educational contexts.  

The awkwardness of this position has become increasingly evident over time as AASECT has established a reputation for providing high quality sexuality training in a larger society where such resources are relatively scarce.  A great many people attend AASECT events for this training that do not anticipate being able to benefit from AASECT certification or nor benefit from mental health licenses.   Sexual surrogates need sexuality training to work effectively with sex therapists as originally intended in protocols worked out by Masters and Johnson.  Although such auxiliary treatment is regarded as illegal sex work in many states, it is permitted in others, and AASECT does not certify surrogacy training, although it occasionally provides courses about working with sex surrogates.  Sex workers, massage therapists, tantra instructors, lifestyle educators, sex toy makers and marketers, and other sexuality professionals benefit from sound instruction on human sexuality and AASECT has not only historically been a good place to get it, but these other professionals enrich the diversity of discourse about human sexuality through their participation in AASECT.  But their participation in AASECT’s community also poses concerns about service, power, and equity.  AASECT’s mission is to educate the general public about human sexuality, but to specifically service the interests of its certified professionals who comprise most of its membership and vote on AASECT’s Directors. Certified Sex Therapists make up 80% of AASECTs certified professionals, and it is their interests that are most reflected in the actions of the AASECT Board of Directors.  Certified Members stay affiliated with AASECT longer and more of them vote in AASECT elections.

Professional Marginalization of Touch:  AASECT’s Code of Ethical Conduct is often the fulcrum of conflict about the differing needs and sensibilities of the various populations served by AASECT.  The code applies to all AASECT certified professions and is assumed to be aspirational for all AASECT trainees.  It enshrines boundaries appropriate for psychotherapists despite the fact that these are all subject to the aforementioned strict state licensing authorities, and educators are often practicing in contexts where they have lesser power over their clients and less need for strict boundaries.  This is even more true for allied sexuality professionals or sex workers whose work routinely uses touch.  One of the functions of AASECT’s boundary, whether intended or not, is to marginalize these other activities.  Often, it is specifically intended to do just that. 

During the past administration, and on the advice of the attorney provided AASECT by Bostrom, AASECT’s professional management company, the Board of Directors has approved an extension of this policy so as to ban AASECT Continuing Education Credits (CEs) for any experiential programs involving educational touch.  This is not part of the AASECT Code of Ethical Conduct but does govern what programs AASECT will mount itself or approve by AASECT approved CE providers.  It constitutes an aggressive change to protect AASECT from any adverse consequences of any such programs which might create legal liability for AASECT.  AASECT seems to have had advice from this attorney that the only way AASECT can be fully protected from such potential liability is a total ban on all CE for such programs. That advice, as far as it goes, is probably technically correct.  Certifying sexuality professionals carries some risk, certifying educational programs carries additional risk and the task of differentiating good programs involving touch from bad ones carries more risk.  In a stigmatized environment, any educational program caries some risk, and minimizing liability is a directorial responsibility.  Note also that Bostrom, which manages no other sexuality organizations, has no special interest in AASECT engaging in risks that might interfere with its ability to buy Bostrom’s liability.  From the point of view of Bostrom and their attorney, there is no advantage in carrying the risks of certifying programs that employ educational touch. 

If, as I have claimed, protecting CE for quality touch programs is a necessary part of AASECT’s business model, it is AASECT’s responsibility to use legal advice to protect such programs, not abandon CE for them.  I am not an attorney, but I seriously doubt that, should a mishap occur at an AASECT activity where AASECT approved the program and recruited the demonstrators, the fact that CE was not approved would significantly improve AASECT’s legal protection from possible damages.  It is quite possible to be a responsible director and doubt the protective value of this recommended policy.

AASECT’s History of Educational Programing: Previously, AASECT had approved on a case by case basis a very narrow handful of programs that would violate this recent ban on CEs for educational touch.  These were among the most popular and successful AASECT programs ever conducted, including a live clinical demonstration of a gynecological exam in 2006 in St Louis, and two Taste of Kink programs in Minneapolis in 2016 and Denver in 2018.  (An important point of self-disclosure here: my colleague Susan Wright and I are the designers of record for those Taste of Kink programs which were mounted in cooperation with the AASECT AltSex Special Interest Group and demonstration teams recruited by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom which Susan chaired.  I have served on the NCSF Board since 2018.)  Occasional programs on tantra, spirituality, and other topics included limited touch.  All of these events that provided for consensual educational touch were optional sources of CEs, not mandatory for certification, but providing full credit towards it if trainees elected them. 

The most prominent experiential component of AASECT training is SARs, Sexual Attitude Reassessment programs that are a required component of all AASECT certifications.  They do not involve touch but do require participants to view and discuss a wide variety of sexuality topics include porn, sexual variability, coercive sexuality, gender expression, HIV, loss and stigma that are highly stressful for some participants.  Supervised group discussions provide stressed participants some support for dealing with their feelings about stressful material but also pressure to discuss it.   I describe this feature of the program here as context for later criticisms about optional CE programs that might involve touch as potentially too stressful for AASECT trainees.  AASECT is aware that practice of its professions in a sex negative culture is stressful, and that trainees come to AASECT in highly variable states of self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and tolerance for different sexual content.

Harvard University is perhaps Americas best school. Not in human sexxulaity, however. They have no human sexuality program. No Ivy leagues school does, either. The Big Ten Conference has 14 schools. Only two have sexuality training programs, University of Michigan and Minnesota. Indiana University operates the Kinsey Institute. Such programs are highly exceptional rather than routine at American universities.

Why AASECT is the Certifying Body for Sexuality Training Programs: Why little AASECT with less than 3000 members and annual conferences of about 700 participants is brokering conversations about what constitutes credit worthy sexuality instruction is a consequence of much more powerful social institutions having abrogated their responsibility to undertake this task.  First on this list of non-joiners are most American academic institutions.  There are fewer sexuality degree programs in the US than in Canada which has less than one eighth our population, and many of the best US programs including Widener University and The University of Michigan School of Social Work’s Sexual Health Certificate Program train explicitly to standards developed by AASECT.   Second on the list are the mental health professional associations such as the American Psychiatric Association, American Psychological Association, and National Association of Social Workers all of whom train and talk about sexuality but have declined to set standards or even mount internal organizations to support systematic teaching and discussion of sexuality.  The American Psychological Association, for example, has 56 divisions including a division for men’s studies, one for women’s studies, and another for sexual orientation and gender diversity, but not one for human sexuality.  Organizations that explicitly train and certify competence to treat sex ‘addiction’ (International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals, IITAP and Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health, SASH) and marital and relationship problems lack any human sexuality training requirements whatsoever.  Similar circumstances propelled Patricia Schiller JD, an SEC lawyer (that’s right, the United States Securities Exchange Commission, the outfit that regulates trading in stocks and bonds) to found AASECT over 50 years ago and these conditions persist to this day.  Like it or not, AASECT is in a position of relative power and authority to control what constitutes effective instruction in the fields of sexuality education, sexuality counseling, sex therapy, and the supervision of those disciplines, and AASECT’s actions dominate the professional ethics under which those professions are conducted.

The Core Criticism of AASECT’s Educational Touch Policy:  Up to this point one might imagine that I am primarily sympathetic to AASECT’s plight in this educational touch decision, and I am sympathetic with AASECT’s dilemma, but I am also one of AASECT’s most out and prominent critics of the decision to ban CE’s for programs including educational touch.   Having worked hard over the last 15 years to expand the field of sex therapy to include the treatment of kinky clients in our clientele, I am necessarily opposed to any decision that would damage our credibility or effectiveness in treating them.  This CE policy does that, and it does so unnecessarily.   But my opposition is not just theoretical and clinical.  I am in a leadership role in work with this community, and as a retired member and major donor to AASECT, I am free to take steps that other certified members could not for reasons of professional vulnerability.   It is my responsibility as an ally of these clients to take this position and to refuse to support AASECT if it marginalizes some of its clients in an attempt to protect itself. 

I maintain that AASECT’s first responsibility is to the clients of our certified members, and this properly belongs ahead of our collective self-interests, where those may diverge from those of our potential clients.   In this, I am listening to Michel Foucault, who 40 years ago observed that the history of sex since the Enlightenment was primarily about the professional guilds licensing their right to discuss and treat sex rather than about effectively protecting the public.  Somewhat prophetically, Foucault was among the first of the French intelligentsia to die in the HIV epidemic even as politicians opposed funding to combat this pandemic because AIDs should be viewed as God’s punishment for homosexual and recreational drug behaviors.  AASECT is not deliberately trying to harm kinky clients, tantra instructors, lifestyle educators and sex workers by banning CE’s for educational touch.   But they are making a stigmatizing choice absent the slightest scientific evidence that fully accrediting these programs makes AASECT’s professionals’ clients or AASECT’s trainees more vulnerable to any social ills whatsoever.

The core of my argument is that risky and powerful as touch may be, touch is a core part of human sexuality and integral to our business.  If AASECT does not effectively license and permit experiential training that involves touch, clients will be further exposed to underqualified professionals, a problem that has plagued the historical treatment by the well-meaning but self-interested mental health professions.  For example, these professionals have only recently stopped categorically classifying a wide spectrum of diverse sexual interests and practices as prima facie evidence of psychopathology.  That only stopped in 2013 with the publication of DSM – 5.  Modern data shows that sexual variability is not in and of itself pathological. 

An early protest against the Operation Spanner prosecutions. All of the gay sadomasochists eventually served time for their convictions and Britain’s laws disallowing consent as a defense against criminal assault were eventually upheld by Parliament and the European Court of Human Rights. Positive legacies of Spanner include the rise of BDSM advocacy groups like the Spanner Trust and NCSF, and educational programs for kinksters and law enforcement differentiating kink from abuse.

But a look at the list of diverse practices certainly gives even the most casual observer pause that some kink activities include elevated risks relative to conventional and socially approved of sex practices.  Coitus is rarely life threatening except through disease transmission, but choking, sexual asphyxia and bondage can be dangerous.  BDSM practices often mimic violence and are often misunderstood as violence.  And a very high degree of sexual violence is already readily tolerated in many cultures, especially intimate partner violence (IPV) and sexual assault.  It is not automatically stigmatizing to negatively impact relatively safe kink practices in the effort to curb other prevalent dangerous practices.   This was at the core of the infamous 1988 Operation Spanner Case in which the British equivalent of our Supreme Court eventually ruled that consent should not constitute a defense against criminal charges of assault lest victims of IPV, who routinely decline to prosecute their assailants, be deprived of the protection of criminal statutes.  The narrow ruling may have been unfair to the tiny number of consenting gay sadomasochists in this Spanner case, but it would constitute a greater unfairness to the much greater number of IPV victims if their continuous consent was required to proceed with prosecutions designed to protect them.   For the record, I completely understand the sexual freedom is not the ultimate value in all matters, and it must sometimes be subordinate to other goods.

Betty Dodson has extended the field of sex therapy into body positivity with her training efforts to have women examine their genitals. She never pursued AASECT certification as an educator or therapist precisely to side step the limits imposed on touch by the AASECT Code of Ethical Conduct.

That said, abdicating responsibility for approving quality CE experiences involving touch undermines the AASECT Vision of Sexual Health, suggests that such instruction is not valuable enough to defend, and surrenders leadership in the field that many historical figures as diverse as Bill Masters and Virginia Johnson and Betty Dodson, Beverly Whipple and John Money, Gina Ogden and David Schnarch and Peggy Kleinplatz have worked hard to establish.  Some, like Dodson, were never AASECT Members, but tried hard to expand the field, explicitly used nudity and touch.   When I came to the field, the bio-psycho-social model of sex therapy extolled by Helen Singer Kaplan was very influential, and bio was clearly understood to include touch and pleasure but that model broadened sex therapy by challenging that idea that behaviorism held all the important insights in understanding sexual expression,.   While touch has always been important, its importance and how to teach about it have been subject to continual struggle and revision.   The AASECT Code of Ethical Conduct was intended to be the bulwark that defended AASECT’s legitimacy while struggling to teach stigmatized content.   This marks a great divergence in AASECT from organizations like APA.  In the American Psychological Association, every member operated under boundary rules that the state licensing authorities have adopted under APA’s urging.   All clinical practitioners operate under state regulations.  And most struggles in APA are between their different practice environments of academic and clinical practitioners.  So, contrary to incorrect reports from AASECT officials in trying to sell their CE ban for consensual touch, APA does not have any such ban.  We at NCSF wrote to the APA and checked.  The popular touch-based programs formerly held at AASECT were all accepted for APA CE credit.  Academic psychologists do not need a touch ban for University training and the great diversity of therapy disciplines and practices already have licensing boundaries.  AASECT officials erroneously tried to bolster the legitimacy of their proposed boundary because someone much more powerful than AASECT did it and our CE needs to be reciprocal with theirs.  Although I’m not sure that reciprocity assumption might require some checking, after all, APA does not even require training in human sexuality in their own accreditation processes, APA has no ban.  It is regrettable the official most responsible for CE with APA didn’t actually check to see that their claim was true.

© Russell J Stambaugh, PhD, Ann Arbor, Michigan, March 2020